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The Pain of Disappointment

by Keith Bond on 6/25/2012 7:23:14 AM

This article is by Keith Bond, Regular contributing writer for FineArtViews.  You should submit an article and share your views as a guest author by clicking here.

 

Last week I wrote about the pain of discipline vs. the pain of regret or disappointment. I argued that fear and the willingness to sacrifice are often the two things that hold people back from pursuing art.

 

I urged you to find an inkling of faith (the antidote to fear), determine where you were willing to sacrifice, and pursue the art you want to pursue.

 

I’m writing this follow-up article before the first was published, but I anticipate some of the comments may be something like this:

 

“But what if I do exercise faith, make sacrifices, endure the pain of discipline and still fail? I will still have the pain of disappointment.”

 

First, let me say that it is true that there is no guarantee of success. You might sacrifice so much and not achieve what you want. I won’t deny that.

 

There are several things to consider, though.

 

1.  There are different kinds of disappointment. There is the disappointment that comes with the regret of not doing. Then there is the disappointment that comes with trying, but not achieving what you want. For me, regret is a deeper wound than failing. Regret comes with the never answered question: “what if...?” I would rather try and fail than not try at all.

 

2.  Although you may fall short of your goals, if you at least try you will be able to look back at what you did attain. You will have achieved something. You will have had the joy of creating art. You will have had the joy of getting a little better at your art. You may not end up where you want, but you will be further along than where you started. When viewed in this light, the disappointment will be less than the regret of not trying.

 

3.  Art is a journey, not a destination. Enjoy the journey.

 

4.  The journey may take you down different roads than you ever imagined. You may not end up where you thought you would, but the ultimate destination might be even better.

 

5.  Any experience in life enriches who you are.

 

6.  You develop attributes through discipline and sacrifice that are not specific to art – some might include patience, endurance, tenacity, faith, humility, gratitude, money or time management, etc. These are byproducts.

 

7.  And then there is the possibility that you might just attain everything you hoped for. How great would that be!

 

Let’s look back at that comment again. “But what if…I fail?” This is your fear talking. Let me turn it around, “But what if…you succeed?” Is it worth the gamble? Is it worth the sacrifice? Is it worth the discipline?

 

Again, I’ll admit – you just might fail. I might fail.

 

Even if you or I do, look at the list above. I came up with these 7 things in about 10 minutes. The first 6 of those 7 acknowledge that you might not get what you set out to get. You might “fail”. Even so, all of them are positive outcomes. And I am sure that there are others I didn’t list. So is it really a failure?

 

“But what if…you benefit in other ways?”

 

If you recognize the other benefits you will certainly gain, then is there really need to fear the pain of disappointment?

 

In a couple of weeks, we’ll discuss how to increase the likelihood of attaining #7.

 

In the meantime, what else would you add to the list?

 

Best Wishes,

Keith Bond



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Jill Banks
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Keith,
I love this article. Given your outlook, the "pain of disappointment" is no risk at all.

All of the points are great, but the belief that "art is a journey" is the one I rely on the most. Also, the more you try -- new things, outside the comfort zone, etc. -- the less you having riding on any one individual outcome. I get a kick out of reaching and trying. There are no expectations that any first attempts will turn out as masterpieces, but as you said, I find myself always just a bit closer to the goal for having made the leap.

Thank you for continually inspiring,

Jill Banks

tom weinkle
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Nice follow-up. One might argue there is no failure, only degrees of success. To turn the idea around one more time...there's a cost to success at whatever level you achieve. Even so, thinking about the journey is what drives me forward to keep trying. You cannot succeed at anything without trying.

Well done. Thank you.

tom

Judy Palermo
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I read this article several times over and over; it really hits the nail on the head so concisely- thank you!
Art is so tough, discouraging interludes are always just around the corner. Then you step back to the big picture, and see how much you have grown from one year ago.
I am in a current glad state now, with recent sales and public feedback encouraging me to keep working hard. You are absolutely right that the fear of failure is a huge roadblock. But oh, the deeper, inner regret of never having tried!

Sandra Reeves Cutrer
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Loved this article, Keith! Something to post in my studio, and read often.Thank you!


Jacqueline
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Bravo! Well said! This makes me think of something unrelated to art, and more about horses; but because I'm considered an equine artist, it kinda fits ; )

We raise baby horses here on our ranch and I like to give our babies the best start possible in their life, before they go on to be with their new owners. So I do a lot of training (what you call "ground work") with them on the ground. Anyways, I have studied and read and watched 'how to videos', attended many horse training clinics and even worked along side a professional trainer for 3 months in order to become a "novice" horse trainer. One of those epiphany moments came when I watched a DVD of a horse trainer who's main belief in his training program was this; "Finding the Try".

He explained that what you look for and reward is when the horse 'tries' for you because that is all you can ask for. If you can 'find the try' you will succeed!

If you have a horse that will not try for you, then you've got a big problem.

Even writing this I can see more parallels with training to become an artist! Find your try!

Marian Fortunati
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Just like with everyone else disappointment is always painful.... But it does, as you said, help you learn to better appreciate the special joy of successes!!

No matter how often I didn't achieve exactly what I was reaching for, I have gained and learned and become "more" for the effort.

Besides... is doing nothing REALLY an alternative??

John Anderson
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I agree. There is; however, another dimension to the story. It's not just about putting a positive spin on disappointment. It's accepting disappointment as a reality that comes to all of us at times, no matter how successful we are. The real trick is not simply to put a positive spin on it, but to learn something deeper from it. What gifts are being given to us in the pain of the disappointment? What learning is there for us when we experience the pain of failing? What challenges does the disappointment present to us? How does our dealing with disappointment now help us to face the future disappointments that will come? There is no journey free of disappointment. That's a reality. The real question is, how can we use the disappointment to strengthen our resolve, reinforce our perseverance, and equip us to move forward? The feelings we have are real--like grief--disappointment has to be lived through--not denied. As we live through disappointment, it's o.k to hurt--that's part of it--but how can we use that to help us move past it? I think we look for the hidden gifts it brings us--grow from them--and find a new strength to move on.

Sharon Weaver
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Even success comes with fear attached. Can we repeat the success and did we really deserve it? In some ways that can be even more scary than failure.

Susan Holland
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"I learned to walk by falling. I learned to swim by sinking. I learned to rest by needing to surrender." sgh



Cathy de Lorimier
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Keith, to #6, attributes that we may gain that are not specific to art, needs to include COURAGE. I have been bucking up my courage to paint en plain air in public places for the last few weeks, knowing I am very much learning how to do this type of painting. It takes me a tremendous amount of courage, because I know others will see my work and may see that I am struggling. After the painting hours are done, I am pleased with myself for stepping out of my comfort zone, whether or not the painting comes out how I'd like. I have also been enjoying painting out of doors, despite my little fears.

Jill Banks
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Susan, what a great quote. So true!
Cathy, I'm working on plein air painting, too, despite it being way outside my comfort zone. The hardest part is realizing that a good way through the painting, I'm still not sure anyone knows what subject I've chosen. Sort of like being a kid again ... is it a horse, a building, a piece of fruit? Each outing at least provides an opportunity for improvement. Congratulations on tackling those fears. It's fun, too, isn't it?

Jill Banks

Susan Holland
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Thanks, Jill.. :) It IS true.

jim Springett
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HI Keith,
You have touched upon the greatest human element for each and every artist who loves painting. The simple act of painting, and staying current daily with my work, keeps the wolves away. If I slow down and get distracted on other areas and am not painting that is when I have a challenge on my hands and the doubt can enter in. For the past two years my eBay sales were very good considering I had not ever sold on eBay before, but now they are nil. That is a reality, and while I have spent a lot more energy and time to develop my work, that is not translating to more positive sales results. In the absence of national business, my local business has jumped to new levels surpassing all my eBay business in the first 6 months of this year. You touch upon the point that many paths are taken in this journey and this is so true helping me to move forward.

Thanks for such a clear and moving testament to the cadre of artists, and just staying patient and keep learning as I go, and to stay very busy is my best route.

Thanks very much.

Jim Springett-wildlife painter

Brian Sherwin
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Keith -- I enjoyed #5 "Any experience in life enriches who you are.". That is SO true. Instead of looking at things as positive or negative... we need to look the impact of the experience and learn from it. Even the negative can be positive if we learn from it.

Esther J. Williams
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Keith, I just came off a very disappointing art show that I prepared for months in advance. The show was an outdoor art festival that I tried for the first time. I had a professional looking booth, great art and smiled and talked to most everyone I could. Art was not selling though. I took down email addresses from some very interested folks I made a connection to. When the the final hour came on the second day of the show, I was sinking into a depression. I spent a lot of money to do this show and was really trying for some sales, but not being pushy. Zero sales in the end and I shed a few tears at the final hour of 5pm. All that hard work I thought, for this? I was not the only one, there were others and we were good artists. We gathered and chatted about our disappointments, it made us feel a little better knowing we were not the only one. For the past 2 days since I came home empty I have been trying to convince myself that something good will come of it. I learned some lessons, at least I kept faith until the final hour and I am grateful for those who I met. In thinking about the people I met, some greatly impacted me. One was a elderly woman in her 90`s who wanted to buy a painting that I was showing in my booth but a couple of days before the show a former client emailed me to say she wanted it. So, I still showed the painting but put a hold on it. That 90 yr old woman loved that painting so much. We talked for an hour and she told me stories and I listened well. I was amazed at how this lady lived a very long life and was still sharp as a tack and working that walker of hers all around the huge show. When her daughter came to get her finally, I told them they were lucky and she was such a gem to get to know. I am carrying the essence of that interaction with me, I will remember her for the rest of my life even if I never hear from her again. She took a postcard of the painting that was on hold and I told her it would look good on her refrigerator. My heart was warmed so much by having the privilege of making her acquaintance. So, I still have faith, seeds were planted by the people I met. My art did impact some of them. The seeds will grow. I will cultivate and fertilize them, nurture the to create new life.

Jim Springett
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Yes, I recently had a similar experience like Esther's show. I had prepared for months, and had a completely new body of work for this show, and a new idea that I ran with was to have hats, t-shirts, post cards, pens and tote bags even coffee cups made using my art, keeping the costs form $25 and below for folks having a hard time with their money. For the children and adults alike I printed quite a few mini prints at 4" x 6", and as the folks came through my booth I signed and dated a mini print of their choice(I had 4 different prints of my original art that was in the show). This show is a local show in rural NW WI and our county is struggling one, so sales are very challenging.I also gave out many of my business cards, and one very interesting thing happened, a manager of a very large Christmas Arts Show in Minneapolis,MN offered me a booth spot for the November art show. That was completely unexpected, and this is a very prosperous show, many art lovers, and is held just before Thanksgiving so and idela time for Christmas shopping. I am going to follow up on this idea and see what happens, it could help to kick start my wildlife art career in the Twin cities.
JIm Springett-wildlife painter

Susan Holland
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Esther, you might want to look at the percentages angle.. like a gambler. Each time you are at the table there are odds. If you spend a lifetime at the table, you will see the odds at work. But if you go to Vegas one or two times and think that what happened in Vegas is what always happens in Vegas, you would be wrong.

The people you talked to and took names of will remember you, and especially so if you follow up with some friendly email or notes, and enclose something with it that reminds them of your work. They will be watching you if you nurture that hard-earned connection. Send them a special invitation to your next venture!

It's called WORK...we suit up and show up, and have some good days and some bad ones. Some unexpected day you will have such an unbelievable bunch of sales at a fair you will think the odds have changed. No, they haven't. You just suited up and showed up and were at work when it happened!

I speak from plenty of fairly or totally "skunked" shows I broke my back to put together. Then there was the show that sold nearly out on the first night. Who could have told me something like that would happen? I was astonished! I'm sure glad I was there. It didn't happen next time.... no one can predict how the dice fall.

All the prep is still good for the next time. Lick wounds and get out your easel. :) Hug. Susan PS I'm definitely not a gambler with dice, by the way...I just know about percentages.

Esther J. Williams
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Susan, thanks for the support. I did art and craft shows over 30 years ago and sold out every time. But it was a different product. I worked 90 hour week schedules, so work is something I am used to and continue to do. Doing art shows for almost ten years now, it is hard to analyze a show that I have never done before. This was just one of those shows that I should`ve walked through and saw for myself firsthand before entering it the next year. If I did walk the show and talked to artists this year, I certainly would`ve passed on it. The type of people buying and the things they bought were not going to help the plein air impressionist artists make a profit or break even for the most part. If I were a more commercial style artist or kid`s photographer, sterling silver jeweler, garden fetish crafter, I would have better luck. The hype by the show promoter that this show was the best in the country hooked me in. I have to disagree with that statement now.
Speaking of gambling, there is that song, "You got to know when to hold up, know when to fold up, know when to walk away and know when to run..."
It was time to fold up on this show after the first try. I am glad I did it even though I will not come back. The human nature factor of meeting people and having my art exposed to another region put my name out there in the air. I checked out my website statistics and it is still getting lengthy visitors from the San Diego area. I had a huge banner with my website on it. So, it was worth what I put into it. Thanks!

Susan Holland
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Ah, yes, Esther... you explained it well. It does make a difference what kind of show it is..and the trinkets and stuff kind of show does take away from the traditional arts. I am nowhere near the veteran you are at this.. I just know that you do learn as you go, and each venue is surely a different "table."

My fair product lately has been carved wood bowls...it fits better with the nuts and bolts economic times (something useful, y'know.)
My paintings are on the back burner until the tide turns, or I find the right venue. Moving at present to the area...that will be a new challenge--lots to learn.

Yep, ya got to know when to fold 'em.

Delilah
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I like what Tom said "One might argue there is no failure, only degrees of success." I agree 100 percent

Charlotte Herczfeld
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Keith, thank you, very good food for thought.

Sometimes, "failing" is a good thing. I failed to get into an important salon, was disappointed, and then discovered I would not have been ready for what the salon *might* have brought. I had just thrown in my entry, without having prepared for interest. I see now it was really good that I "failed". And I have also re-painted a section of the painting...


Charlotte Herczfeld
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@ Jacqueline, thank you for your story about Find The Try, it is perfect for teaching. It is also perfect for finding my own tries.

Donna Robillard
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I am like you, Keith, I would rather have tried something and it not go well, than have the regret of not having tried at all. Is it always easy to bite the bullet and give it a try? No, but quite often there are sweet surprises1

Jacqueline
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We cannot grow without trying things. By trial and error we learn, grow and develop as a person and as an artist. If we don't try, we sit, stale and nothing changes. Even if we somehow feel content where we are, I don't think the contentment is real. It is a false sense of security. We should never settle. Keep pushing through to the next discovery. Just some thoughts...

Justicia
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Thank you so much for this article. Very encouraging and true. As an artist that is just beginning to put my work out there, your articles are helpful in navigating through the character- building business of art. :-)

Brian Sherwin
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Jacqueline -- Wonderful thought. It is OK to be content... but not if it comes in the form of accepting defeat.

Lynne Hurd Bryant
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I was anxiously awaiting this followup to the last article and it didn't disappoint. I'm in a struggling phase at the moment and will have to march forward, inspired to "make it." Making it can have a lot of different definitions and I have never defined it! Success is what scares me. I can't wait for the next entry.










 

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