With my children grown now, we have a new policy in place: Don't waste your time, effort and money worrying about buying gifts for others. Buy what you most want for yourself and spend your entire Christmas budget on it. Then, we'll all get together and share what we bought and why we wanted it, telling funny stories and making new family folklore. Everyone always has the right size, the right color and the perfect gift at the right price. This year I bought Kolinsky sables and I am sure the fact that good ol' uber frugal mom blew $50 on a single brush will blow my children's minds. By focusing on family time and letting each of us buy our own, we have learned volumes about one another.