Discuss: Relationships and art
Submitted by bsherwin at 7/17/2012 2:14:27 PM CST
bsherwin: I'll be honest... it can be Hell if your partner does not 'get' what you do as an artist. I sacrificed several relationships for my art when I was younger -- one ex actually made me choose between her and my exploration of painting. I still have my brushes. That relationship cycle continued with my writing. Pointblank, a lot of my former lovers simply could not put up with my love for art. One could suggest that they felt as if they were the 'other' woman. So bet it.
I remember one ex suggested that I'm "married to art". I did not disagree with her. Another justified cheating because I spent too much time "doing the art thing" -- she felt that all of my time should have been focused on her (I'll choose gallery hopping over bar hopping any day of the week). Another felt it was a "waste of time" (even though by that time I was making a living 'doing the art thing'... which beats stocking shelves at Walmart). Needless to say, I often wonder if other people have faced relationships struggles due to their dedication to art.
How have relationships impacted you -- positive or negative -- as an artist? How do you handle the situation if a partner asks you to 'cut back' on the hours you spend in the studio... or if your partner demands you to stop 'doing the art thing'? Do you change your practice -- or are you dedicated to your 'marriage' with art? Have you sacrificed a relationship for your relationship with art?
Consider this an open thread about relationships and art.